Why Monica and Chandler Gave Us Serious Couple Goals!

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Chandler and Monica were best friends, great partners and finally adorable parents, we can all imagine… Chandler being a strict father and Monica being a completely crazy mother right? We love all the couples in the show, Mike-phoebe were a great couple and so were our “WE WERE ON A BREAK” couple, but Mondler gave us major couple goals.

Everyone who has ever watched F.R.I.E.N.D.S know who Chandler and Monica are, the best friends turned lovers turned husband-wife. Amidst the chaos of Ross and Rachel’s confused relationship, Chandler and Monica fell in love and gave us some serious goals. Monica and Chandler’s storyline wasn’t even there in the writer’s mind but who knew that it would turn out to be so good. We all have seen the two most adorable relationships of the series which is RosChel and Mondler, but why are Chandler and Monica the Ultimate couple? Here’s why:

  • They were best friends –

Chandler and Monica were really good friends before they started dating each other. They knew each other really well, and were well aware of each other’s likes and dislikes, habits and fears. So, they hit it off easily and it also spared them the process of knowing each other. Most of us believe that it is a bad idea to date our best friends, but after seeing a couple like Chandler and Monica we all definitely need a Mondler to ourselves.

  • Accepting each other’s flaw –

One of the most important part of a relationship is accepting each other’s flaws. Monica Geller and her obsession with everything being perfect, her perfect image of marriage and of course her love for children; and Chandler Bing being the lazy, funny and commitment phobic guy. They both accepted each other’s flaws and eventually learned to live with them, A commitment phobic man and a perfectionist managed their relationship in a such a beautiful manner, and they never had to take “A BREAK”

  • Don’t expect your partner to change –

Mondler never forced each other to change themselves, in fact they were happy with who they were. After Chandler moves in with Monica, Monica doesn’t expect Chandler to become a cleanliness freak and neither does Chandler expect Monica to change her behaviour after he moves in. They never expected changes from each other, but with the relationship gradually becoming deeper maybe they put efforts in trying to make each other happy by doing things that the other likes, The part where Chandler cleans the house to make Monica happy which didn’t turn out to be a good idea, Monica being a perfectionist has issues with the way things in her house changed but she eventually puts everything back to where it belonged and yet appreciated Chandler’s effort to make her happy. There weren’t huge changes, but their efforts mattered a lot.

  • Compromise in the relationship –

Compromising for another is the biggest quality that one holds in a relationship, Monica who is the ultimate freak of being perfect had her whole wedding planned at the age of 5 and had even decided her wedding dress but she gave up her perfect wedding and dress so that Chandler could get his favourite band play at the wedding. Love is not always about you, and maybe sometimes giving up something of yours to make your partner happy is one of the best feelings. Monica understood this and that is why someone like her knew that Compromising in the key to a happy relationship.

  • Understanding each other –

Since they were best friends, they knew each other really well. They had a great understanding on how to handle things and how not to. From the moving in, to the wedding, to the conceiving of babies and finally to their perfect house. Initially their relationship was a secret, they did not want to spoil their friendship because they were hooking up with each other continuously after Ross’s wedding. They took time in understanding their relationship first and did not want to jump into it instantly and spoil whatever they have.

  • Supporting each other’s decisions –

Whether it was Chandler moving to Tulsa, or changing his job and pursuing his passion; or whether it was Monica becoming a head chef at Big Apple. They had each other’s back no matter what and never cribbed or made a big thing about it. They knew what was best for each other and that is why they were always in favour of each other. A quite a few jokes here and there, but they gave us major goals when it came to supporting each other.

  • Leaving the past behind –

They knew each other’s past really well and especially their exes, Monica’s obsessive love for Richard and Chandler’s loving Janice- OH MY GOD! Not only did they leave their exes behind, but they were never insecure about each other for what they had done in the past and always faced it together. Although, Chandler did get a little insecure about Richard after they started dating, but we all know who Monica loves and marries in the end.

  • Sticking together through thick and thin –

Throughout the entire series, the only couple who stuck through thick and thin no matter what came by was Monica and Chandler. We all know that they supported each other throughout, made long distance relationship work and finally when they were ready to have a baby, they got to know that they couldn’t have babies. It was heart-breaking for all of us, knowing Monica’s obsession of becoming a mother but they loved each other even more and never let any of that get into their relationship. They decided to adopt babies and make their family a happy family.

  • The Proposal –

Chandler has been commitment phobic since the very beginning and for him to actually propose the woman he loves is hands down a big thing, but it was not that easy and also with a hint of surprise. Chandler wasn’t the only one who went down on his knees, Monica surprised him by decorating the entire house because she had a hint that he was going to propose to her. It wasn’t a cliché man proposing to a woman, but both of them going down their knees to tell each other that they were ready to spend the rest of their lives together. Honestly, we all cried a bit during their proposal and it was one hell of a magical proposal.

  • Not every Love story is a Fairy tale –

Monica’s perfect love story did not start in a perfect way, from hooking up in the wedding, to the awkward moving in, to being crazy and totally a mess, to finally proposing each other, to adopting babies and finally moving in to their perfect house. Their love story had a lot of hurdles that they had to go through and by this we know that not all love stories are fairy tales. Sometimes, its okay to be just the way you are and just be happy.

Chandler and Monica were best friends, great partners and finally adorable parents, we can all imagine… Chandler being a strict father and Monica being a completely crazy mother right? We love all the couples in the show, Mike-phoebe were a great couple and so were our “WE WERE ON A BREAK” couple, but Mondler gave us major couple goals.

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FOITO- Transforming lives with the right career path

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World's first Free Skill Report that can help you avail FREELANCE PROJECTS.

I recently came across a book called ‘Ikigai’- The Japanese secret of a long and happy life. And the secret to a long and happy life is to find a career which gives you a purpose to wake up to every day. 

As a child, whenever I was asked “what do you want to become”? the answers changed every 6 months. So I had a plethora of choices starting from a doctor, to astronaut, a comedian, a robotics expert, and whatnot.

But then little did I realize that what we dream of and what we end up doing can be stark opposites. As we step into higher education we get into peer pressure or family pressure and eventually choose a career which is “Trending in India” and finally fall into a spiral of gloom and despair when we realize halfway through that we do not like our career path.

Owing to the immense competition, we are very still stuck in a maze where it is almost difficult to get to know ourselves. But it is important to note that embarking on a path to the right career without a thorough analysis of your own self is a horrible mistake and, as a consequence, all of us may eventually be left in a state of absolute misery!

Therefore, before planning out our future job opportunities, our main focus would be to better understand ourselves. It means developing our latent talents, finding things that really attract us, searching for experiences that give us an adrenaline rush, recognizing work that doesn't make us feel drained and helps us to reach our highest potential.

This seems quite daunting for us being in a country where only rhetoric learning is given utmost importance and there is less scope for developing skills that match our passion.

Still, wondering how to go about it?

This is where FOITO comes to the rescue.

FOITO was incorporated in November 2018. They have covered a journey of 1.5 years and have already completed more than 30 + training projects and over 80 skills assessments. Having a network of 20 + trainers across India, they have been able to deliver effectively to all their clients

A brief introduction about the founders:

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Mr. Shabar Syed (Co-Founder)

Enthusiast, ambitious and imaginative, his diverse professional experience, his passion for teaching and his versatility in strategic analysis help him deliver enriching interaction-based learning sessions.

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Manohar Reddy (Co-Founder)

Humble, technically strong, he knows the best way to manage the most complicated situations. His unique actions and imaginative concepts, together with his first-hand experience of working for a leading retail store, helps him add practical scenarios to the workshops.

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Swagata Ganguly (Co-Director)

Bcom Hons graduated from Delhi University, now pursuing an MBA at IIM Lucknow, was part of FOITO 's journey as an intern and is now looking to manage the venture forward as a director.

The USPs of FOITO are as follows:

Their Skill Evaluation Module is an emotional intelligence-based skill evaluation that seeks to help people determine their best career choices based on three-point requirements. They also recommend the necessary preparation programs on the basis of the qualifications needed for the career paths thereby obtained.

The best part is whether we are at the beginning of our career or in mid-level jobs they can help us steer in the right direction based on our educational qualifications. Or if we want to venture into entrepreneurship they give all the necessary training by Industry Experts customized according to our needs.

So, FOITO provides a fascinating opportunity for those who want to explore their latent talents and are able to find some promising career opportunities where they'll be successful. Join our Webinar to find all the answers to your career questions

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21 Must-Know Laws for Indian Women

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Women in our nation have reached great heights of success, yet most of them are still not aware of the most common laws for Indian women laid down by our government.This article attempts to help educate about the laws for Indian women.

Introduction

“Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.” ― Martin Luther King Jr.

Women in our nation have reached great heights of success, yet most of them are still not aware of the most common laws for Indian women laid down by our government. Whenever a wrong is done, often we let the matter slide because we don’t want to deal with police and courts. If each one of us knows our rights, instead of being terrified, we could actually fight the wrong. This article attempts to help educate about the laws for Indian women. The term Police itself is so misunderstood by us. POLICE stands for Public Officer for Legal Investigations and Criminal Emergencies.

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Ever partied too loud or too late for the police to come and intervene? Or have been in a situation where the traffic police have threatened to take you to the police station? Well, they can’t!

  • When women interact with a Police Officer- Women cannot be arrested after sunset and before sunrise. If arrested, they have to be presented before a Magistrate within 24 hours and should be kept in a prison separate from the male prisoners. The arrest and search of your body can be made only by a female officer. 
  • If any form of questioning is required with the Police: If the police officer wants to do any investigation or question you further about any complaint you may have filed, he needs to come to your home and do such questioning at your residence. The police officer cannot call you alone to the police station or any other place of his choice.  
  • When Woman endures sexual harassment or a sexual assault at the workplace: Each one of us has had that sneaky boss of ours eyeing us in a manner that made us uncomfortable. Or in an interview, a sexual favor was demanded in exchange for the job. Whether verbal or non-verbal, such action is not acceptable. All such complaints are to be filed within three months of the occurrence with the Internal Committee at your workplace. If there is no Internal Committee, you can file all such complaints with the Local Committee in the town where you work or reside. 
  • Women have a right to Equal Pay: There should be equal pay for men and women for the same work done by them in the same position. For example, Two team leads with equal experience, should receive the same salary irrespective of their gender. No gender discrimination can be made even during the hiring process. This has also been guaranteed under the Indian Constitution. 
  • When a woman works night shifts- There should be proper security measures taken by your employer if your job demands night shifts. This includes your travel to and from work.  No woman should be made to work alone in a night shift and has to be necessarily placed in a group.
  • Woman’s right to say No and Sexual Assault: When you are touched sexually without consent, or forced or coerced to establish any form of physical relationship, it is sexual assault. If any form of threat is made to you to get the consent, it is not consent. Stalking, eve-teasing, Voyeurism, acid attack, outraging a woman’s modesty, showing pornography etc. are all considered to be sexual assault and sexual violence.  
  • Woman’s Right to Privacy: The identity of a sexual assault victim is to be kept confidential under all circumstances. Your statement may be recorded by before a Magistrate without being overheard by anyone else. Even in the judgment, the judge refers to you as the ‘victim’. All the Bollywood movies where cross-examination is done in open court, it is only entertainment purposes. The reality is very different.
  • Medical Examination in the event of rape and sexual assault: A medical test to establish rape should be conducted within the first 72 hours of the incident. It is to be performed by a female doctor. The test establishes any sexual activity performed on the woman and helps to detect the rapist if any semen sample is found in the victim’s body. Rape is a crime and not a medical condition.
  • FIR in case of Sexual Assault: There is no time limit to report rape or sexual assault. A case may be filed in any police station that the victim wants to, in the presence of a female constable. This is known as the Zero FIR.  Section 375 and 376 of the IPC deal with rape. In certain cities like Delhi, a woman may report a sexual assault online or through a registered post letter to a senior police officer.
  • Woman’s Right to Free Legal Aid: When reporting a sexual assault, if you do not have a lawyer present, you may ask for legal aid and the police officer has to provide you with it. 
  • Right of Abortion: Abortion is the right of a woman. Hence, no parental or husband’s consent is required to abort.  Under normal conditions, until the 20th week, the woman can abort and if there is any risk to the life of a mother, abortion can be done until the 24th week. 
  • But without the woman’s consent, abortion is illegal and a punishable offense. During pregnancy,      under no circumstances can any test be performed to find out the gender of the baby. This is a            crime. 
  • Right against cyber crimes: With the advent of technology, it has become much easier for criminals to hide behind their digital screens and harass women. Cyber Stalking, Identity theft, Online Defamation, Morphing pictures, pornography, etc. are all crime. 
  • Cybercrime complaints may be filed online at https://www.cybercrime.gov.in/ or in your nearest police station. You may file a complaint anonymously as well. 
  • Rights of a married woman: The Supreme Court in India has said that every married woman should be treated with dignity and respect. You are entitled to live in the same house as your husband and to be maintained by him. Any act of bigamy on the part of your husband is a punishable offense. 
  • Woman’s right Against Domestic Violence: If your husband or any other man in your house hits you, you can file a Domestic violence case. This may be filed with or without simultaneously asking for Divorce. 
  • Right to Property and Streedhan: All the gifts received by you before and after marriage ceremonies or during childbirth, is your personal property and no one can take it away from you, not even your husband. You have an equal right in your father’s property as well. Similarly, you also have a right in your husband’s property after his death. 
  • Woman’s right to give divorce: Divorce is always a second chance at happiness and everyone deserves to stay happy. If any cruelty is being meted out to you, you can ask for a divorce. Adultery, Bigamy, religious conversion, insanity, missing for over 7years, or non- consummate the marriage, are divorce grounds.
  • If your husband has committed rape, bestiality or sodomy; on any other person, it may be a ground for divorce provided you can prove it. Marital rape is considered in India only when the age of the wife is less than 18yrs. 
  • Note: It may be noted that the marital laws in our nation differ with respect to the caste and faith of a person.
  • Right to Maintenance and Alimony: In the event of judicial separation or divorce, a woman is entitled to maintenance from her husband for herself and her children, as long as she does not remarry. The amount depends on your lifestyle under Section 125 of CRPC and decided by a judge. Alimony is a one-time payment of maintenance. 

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  • Right to Child’s custody: Ideally for a child below the age of 5yrs, the mother is the natural guardian and the child should remain in the mother’s custody. A female minor child is usually placed in the mother’s custody always. 
  • A right to Maternity benefits: Becoming a mother is one of the best feelings in the world and it should not stand in the way of your success and career graph. Every expecting, adopting or surrogate mother has the right to maternity benefits. It may be claimed for up to 26weeks and post this, if the nature of the job permits, you can opt for work from home. During the period of maternity leave, you cannot be fired or demoted. Even if the mother dies during childbirth, your heir is entitled to the payment of any maternity benefit that is due. Even at instances of miscarriage, it is supposed to be paid. Some common queries were answered by the Ministry of Labour & Employment which may also be helpful- Maternity Benefit Laws
  • Woman’s right to Live-in relationship: Any sound woman above the age of 18yrs has the right to choose her partner whether to get married or be in a live-in relationship with. Live-in relationships are legally recognized by the law. And children of such couples also have legal rights against the father. 
  • Right against Dowry: Both giving and receiving dowry, whether in the name of gifts or anything else is strictly prohibited. If you are being tortured by your in-laws in the name of dowry, you may seek divorce and legally imprison your husband and his family.

National Commission For Women

The NCW is a government body in India that aims to voice the rights of women in our country. It has advocated and fought against archaic laws. It strives to ensure the safety of women, both inside and outside their houses. 

If anyone of you have any further questions regarding your rights, you may click the link below to seek help for all such matters: http://www.ncw.nic.in/helplines

The website also provides the space to ask your questions online as well. http://ncw.nic.in/

The National Women Helpline number is 181. 

My Personal Experience:

Being a lawyer, I have encountered many women who wanted to file for divorce or get an abortion or wanted to file a complaint in general for any atrocity meted out to them. But more often than not, they would not go through with it despite living horrendous lives. Their biggest fears involved only one question- What will the people think? Log kya kahengey! And how would they support themselves and their children after the incident? But all these fears are unnecessary as there are enough laws in our nation to protect the interest of women.

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Conclusion

India, the land of Durga, Kali and Saraswati, ironically is famous for being one of the most aggressively dominant patriarchal societies in the world. But since Independence, one step at a time, an attempt is made to bring change. The laws though abundant lacks awareness. 

Women have traveled a long way from being uneducated and married at the age of 10yrs to now becoming the CEO’s of some of the most prestigious companies worldwide. Battles are being fought day in and day out in against patriarchy but most battles are yet to be won. 

Once the rights are identified, it shall become increasingly easy to get these rights implemented. One step at a time and we shall be in an equal state with the men in our society if not superior. This is where feminism begins. This article hopes to be a step in the direction of achieving that. 

 

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